So the new lady friend and I spoke as I mentioned. She let me know she is interested in slow and I agreed that slow is good. However, i don’t think she has time for me in her life. Now this is a change for me. I am normally the booked up guy. In the past few years, however I have grown up both at work and at home and I can create more flexibility in my life as needed. I am getting ready to go out of town on business for a few weeks and I return just prior to a formal engagement for my organization. I love these things. I enjoy getting dressed up, going out and socializing. This year looks like it will be my second year in a row where I will find myself alone, no date…. I hate it. It is things like this that make me dislike my life. Generally everyone will have a date. Hell, all my peers have wives that will escort them. I do not want to sit alone again………
What the hell is wrong with me anyway? I am secure. I am stable (mostly). I have set myself up financially. I have saved a small fortune towards my goals and retirement. I am a gentleman in all respects. Once I get to know someone and see that we care for one another, I do absolutely everything I can for them, especially the little things. I don’t come on too strong though. I am pretty relaxed. I am not demanding or self centered. What is it, someone tell me? I hear all the time, “you just haven’t found the right woman yet.” I hate that. Everywoman I meet spends the first few dates asking me, “why aren’t you married yet” or telling me that I am a good guy. Hell, everyone tells me I’m a good guy. So, why then am I fast approaching 31years old with nothing of a relationship to show for it? Why?
For the same reason I am. It’s not that you haven’t found the right one yet; they haven’t found you. I like to think I haven’t found someone that can keep up with me.
Stag is good…it means you have options!
Unfortunately this is my second year of stag. It means that once again I will find myself alone at a table full of couples…. It means that I will buy two tickets, just in case, only for to end up having an empty chair beside me. it means embarassing. I really hate this portion of my life….
It is what you make of it!
You said you were normally the booked up guy. Are you too busy to date?
That is a frustration with me right now. I have been seeing a guy who might be “Mr. Perfect for me” but I am bored that my social life is so lacking because he is so busy, it makes me want to date other people.
I used to be very busy. However now I have a lot more time. My career, although still time consuming, now allows me a lot more free time based on my needs. Most of the time I get to decide how booked up I am.